Why You will By no means Catch Me Babysitting My Children

By Shawn Henfling

​I have not babysat my kids in nearly 10 years. I will not.

Babysitting is not my accountability. I am their stepdad, not some 16-year-old woman making $9 an hour. My job is to work and supply for them in each manner. I merely refuse to spend just a few hours each week in some misguided effort to spend “high quality time” with my youngsters. Screw that and screw everybody who believes in any other case.

I cannot conform to the accepted societal notion of what fatherhood is meant to appear like. I am not some bungling fool who can’t be trusted to do the laundry, cook dinner a meal or change a diaper. OK, so I would not belief me to alter a diaper, however that’s irrelevant to the dialog.

No father ought to ever be labeled a babysitter.

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Collectively, we’re higher than that, higher than some misguided notion of fatherhood.

We, single dads, stepdads, adopted dads and organic dads are all only one factor: dads. I have not babysat in so lengthy, as a result of I began being a guardian as an alternative of some placeholder solely crucial when Mother is not round. We get a reasonably bum rap in public and within the media. By some means, a dad really being a dad will get checked out as some type of abhorrence.

Conventional notions of fatherhood and masculinity have left parenting to the mothers. Dads are relegated to the sidelines, pushed into the fringes with tasks that haven’t modified as society has advanced. Fifty years in the past, we have been the disciplinarians and the breadwinners. Now, the media portrays us as fools and idiots, unfit for the only of duties. Dads are simply huge youngsters who should be stored in examine by their extra accountable and mature wives.